My first blog aired on the side of being more light hearted and comical….but I wanted to get down to the real reason I started this blog and the message I want to send out to anyone/ everyone who reads it.
Recently I’ve been having one of those; transitional phases that so many of us go through at different stages of our life. Some have them far earlier on in their lives, and others reach they late 40’s early 50’s before they have any!
Its when, life gets the better of us as some may say and when we get to a place where we just stop!…and say “What on earth am I doing with myself?” or “Why am I here?” or “what the heck is wrong with me, why am I feeling like this?” blah blah blah, etc, etc! Its annoying and can seriously mess with your whole being when you feel so stuck, so annoyed by the way things are or the lack of things we feel we need or deserve but we’re just not getting there and we’re not even close! *Sigh* this is a lot!
Love messes us up, Guys, Girls or both (in some cases…no judgement…just saying)
Work, your annoying manager or whoevers senior to you, or you may be one of few who actually like your bosses and god forbid ACTUALLY laughs genuinely at their jokes! 0_0
Now…I don’t know the ins and outs of everyone’s family issues or whatever but I’m pretty sure we all go through some sort of mess with them, whether it’s just annoyance and irritation from nagging mums and dads or silly joyful happy little brothers or sisters. Whatever the case, family problems occur daily and they probably aren’t going to vanish anytime soon, BUT we, me, us, can make it 100 times better! From just changing our mind-set and understanding that we do have a choice to react and deal with things in a bad way, or a good way.
For instance!!….I recently had a falling out with my own mum, over numerous issues from both sides. I went into dealing with this knowing that I wasn’t going to disrespect the woman who deserves more than me screaming, hollering or swearing at her, instead I made a choice to hear her side, actually listen to what she had to say and keeping myself open to resolving this issue rather than closing myself off with ignorant ears which a lot of us do without even realising!
The end result, both of us understood different and valid points from each other. Yes of course my mummy and I will still bicker about silly things, but it’s the mutual understanding and respect that stops those more serious problems laying dormant in each other and allowing both of us to squash underlying REAL problems.
The next time you and your parent gets into one, stop talking for one second, release the hatred and blood boiling anger that you have for a minute…if their shouting let them shout for that period that they feel they need to, after all most parents have gone above and beyond for us, give them a few minutes to have their say. Once they do give you a chance to actually speak(which may take a few minutes of total ear-bashing) you take the lead of speaking calming, assertively, confidently and RESPECTFULLY which will allow you to get your valid point across,(and I really do hope its valid!) you’ve already listened to them, so you should have a good understanding of what the actual problem was or still is…if you don’t then in your calm respectful manner, ask them to clarify what they feel you have done wrong. Listen I know this may sound like it would never work…but what’s the worse that can happen…you may have to listen to your mum or dad, but by the end of it you will feel better knowing YOU didn’t fly off the wall and go mad! Because seriously, that does not help you and it doesn’t help them! So what’s the point?
If you can honestly get this method down to a “T” each and every time you have disagreements and fights with your family, believe it or not, it’s a transitional phase.
Upcoming blog topic…..
Well….i haven’t actually grasped the concept of relationship drama…I really wanna get onto that one soon so that will be my next one. I hope you got some sort of insightful info from reading One of many Transitions, don’t worry, we haven’t ended this topic yet, they’ll be more!
Toodles!
Oh….and remember…